I am a new widower [45 yrs married] prior to my darlings sudden death, we travelled the world. Our next holiday was to visit India, we never made it!

I have always wanted to visit India and thought I would never now go, but my daughter told me about JY - so here I am thinking if I should book?

I have not travelled on my own since Jenny's death, and even have feelings of guilt thinking about it!

I worry that fellow travelers might have other motives for choosing a JY holiday [romance, sex] but I am only interested in friendly chat, company, an interest in the places we visit and most of all not being on my own.

Can anyone tell me what it is like to meet strangers and go on holiday with them. What if I don't like them or they don't like me, it could spoil their/my holiday.

So - any thoughts, guidence and comments would be very helpful!

Best wishes to all

sincerely

Jim

Hello to whoever!

I am a new widower [45 yrs married] prior to my darlings sudden death, we travelled the world. Our next holiday was to visit India, we never made it!

I have always wanted to visit India and thought I would never now go, but my daughter told me about JY - so here I am thinking if I should book?

I have not travelled on my own since Jenny's death, and even have feelings of guilt thinking about it!

I worry that fellow travelers might have other motives for choosing a JY holiday [romance, sex] but I am only interested in friendly chat, company, an interest in the places we visit and most of all not being on my own.

Can anyone tell me what it is like to meet strangers and go on holiday with them. What if I don't like them or they don't like me, it could spoil their/my holiday.

So - any thoughts, guidence and comments would be very helpful!

Best wishes to all

sincerely

Jim

Hi Jim

First of all JY is most definitely NOT a dating, holiday romance site. Yes, women will more than likely outnumber men, but that does not matter in the slightest, some will be like you (and me), some separated or single and some are married and prefer a holiday without the "other half". There is also sure to be someone who won't particularly "click", but all will be chatty and friendly; at least that is what I have found.

Your reasons for choosing somewhere to go will be the same as all the others, and far from being on your own, there will be times when you will be glad to have your own room for peace and quiet.

As for feeling guilty - please don't. Your soulmate would very likely be happy to think that you have plucked up the courage to do something, rather sit at home, and your daughter obviously thinks it a good idea. It will be very, very, strange at first; but once you have met up with your group you will be OK.

Book and enjoy.

Sylvia

Welcome to the forum.

From my experience (10 JY hols so far) the vast majority of travellers are there for the same reason "a good holiday". Its certainly not a dating agency so you have no worries on that score. Sure occasionally some people do meet and end up dating but its actually very few, certainly no more than anywhere else where you would find lots of singles.

On the other hand people often form friendships, I keep in touch with many from my various trips.

It was once said to me that "the groups are big enough to avoid those you want to but small enough to meet those that have similar interests", that is so true.

In reality thats what happens and people do form into small groups with similar outlooks, thats not saying the full group dont mix but if you want to do something different you are likely to find someone wanting to tag along.

Many started using JY after losing a partner, myself included.

Mick

Firstly can I put your mind straight this is NOT a dating romance sex group. My view is just to see as much of the world I can in a very safe way and have some laughs along the way, this is shared by many others. If you go on the main board which lists the variouse sections IE Say Hello ...Ask the Editor.. etc go to the last line which says... from Just You click on that and then go into the link that satrts New to single travel BBC Radio 4, you will hear an interview from myself which explains more.OK.

I am sorry you are on your own after 45 years there are many people in your position that travel with JY.

I have my 10th tour booked for later this year. So just a few things, age range anything from 25-90 main age group I would say 55-75, more often than not more ladies in the group than men but dont worry, we all get on, you dont need to be alone unless you want to and that is respected. Us ladies do not chase you men or indeed the other way around we are all just having a holiday to see and visit great sights in a safe way, yes we laugh and sometimes there are even tears but this way of travelling works so well.

The first thing you will have in common with the group of strangers is that you have all choosen that holiday for a reason and you will not be strangers for long. There are always people you will get on with and others you wont thats life, but its for a short space of time and people just go with the flow. It really is good fun and you see and do so much.

So I would say please just go for it, if you come back and its not for you then thats fine, or if you come back like so many of us, you cannot wait to book the next tour.

I hope you will try a JY tour and if I can help with any others questions just ask and I will try and answer. I am sure others will post positive messages to you as well..

Cindy

Hello to whoever!

I am a new widower [45 yrs married] prior to my darlings sudden death, we travelled the world. Our next holiday was to visit India, we never made it!

I have always wanted to visit India and thought I would never now go, but my daughter told me about JY - so here I am thinking if I should book?

I have not travelled on my own since Jenny's death, and even have feelings of guilt thinking about it!

I worry that fellow travelers might have other motives for choosing a JY holiday [romance, sex] but I am only interested in friendly chat, company, an interest in the places we visit and most of all not being on my own.

Can anyone tell me what it is like to meet strangers and go on holiday with them. What if I don't like them or they don't like me, it could spoil their/my holiday.

So - any thoughts, guidence and comments would be very helpful!

Best wishes to all

sincerely

Jim

Hello Jim

Can I first say I am so sorry for the loss of your wife after so many years together.

You ask the question "should I do it?" My answer to that is if you feel ready to travel on your own yes you should. May I also put your mind at rest and say that travellers with Just You are not looking for sex/romance. Just You is a company that creates holidays, and very well I might add, for people on their own for whatever reason, you will find widows, widowers, people who are divorced, people who have never been married and even people who are married but whose partner doesn't want to travel. On the holidays I have been on I would say the average age group is anything from 40 - 75 years old, the youngest I can remember was 26 and the oldest was a lovely gentleman who was 92 years young who was on the China holiday I did. You will find you are with very like minded people, that's why people choose the holidays they do, I have always found that women out number the men, probably because they feel safe travelling with this company.

Will you get on with everyone and will they get on with you? I can't say that there wont be someone in the group you may not get on with, but I can say that if there is they will be in the minority. Because people are on their own they are always ready for friendly chat and the company of the their travelling companions.

The first time I took a holiday with Just You I was terrified of what I was letting myself in for, but I needn't have worried because I quickly found out that I wasn't the only first timer in the group and we were all feeling the same, that was all a long time ago and I've never looked back since.

If you feel that you would like to go to India I would say go for it. I have been on the Spirit of India holiday and thought it was fantastic, you will have a Just You tour manager with you all the time from Heathrow and all the way through until you get back, you will also have a local Indian guide with you once you get to India and they will both be there to sort out any problems or concerns you may have during your trip.

I hope this has helped a little bit.

Best wishes

Avocet

Sorry for your loss, most of us are in the same situation having lost a loved one.

India has long been on my list, unfortunately this trip does not go where I want to go. I would love to see Shimla and the Taj Mahal on the same trip. Hope you go where you would have gone with your wife. Carve memories to remember her by.

Jan.

I agree with all the comments made by everyone. Go for it - life is too short.

Jaya

Just You is an excellent company I have found and I'm sure you will enjoy your trip. Go for it.