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Hi from a first timer on this forum. Over the past 19 years my husband and I were fortunate enough to have lots of amazing holidays  - mostly in Europe but some further afield too. Sadly my husband passed away two weeks ago after a long illness. I know he would want me to try and carry on as normal, so now I have the prospect of holidaying alone. I’m very scared - I can’t bear the idea of not having my husband and best friend there to share the experience with, but equally I don’t want to spend the rest of my life never going on holiday again.  I’d be interested to hear of anyone else who might have been through the same experience and how you overcame that initial anxiety. It would be lovely to make new friends on holiday - hopefully a 59 year old gay guy wouldn’t feel too much out of place. Restaurants are one of my biggest fears - Steve and I loved trying the best local restaurants, wonderful regional food and wine. Dining alone fills me with dread - I don’t want to spend every evening in my hotel room with a room service meal.  Hopefully, once the world is back to normal and everyone can travel again, I’ll be able to pluck up the courage and make a booking.
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Post: #2
Hi Magicdave2020,
I was in the same position as you 5yrs ago, I did go on holiday with family at the beginning but couldnt expect them to go on holiday with me all the time when they have a family of their own, so I plucked up enough courage and spoke to a lovely lady from JY she put my mind at ease, I booked a holiday to costa de luz in Spain thought nice easy one to start with, I was so nervous leading up to the holiday thinking have I done the right thing but I'm so glad I did, it was brilliant, I met some amazing people, tour manager was lovely and really good at her job, everything is taken care of for you, I'm hooked got the bug as they say, I've  now done 4 with a 5 booked for june that's if it's not cancelled with everything going on at the moment, when we do finally get through this current situation,  I recommend that you bite the bullet so to speak and book a holiday, you wont be disappointed,  I think we'll all need a holiday after this. I've met some amazing people that I still keep in touch with and seen some lovely places, the excursion are all good, you'll be in good company and you'll never be alone at meal times but you still have your own space if you want to. Hope this helps you to make a decision, it's the best thing I ever did, you never know we might even get to meet on a JY holiday, take care and happy holidaying, all the best Donna...
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Post: #3
I'm so sorry for your sad loss, Dave. Its understandable that you are feeling some trepidation about travelling alone so soon after your bereavement but a company like Just You is a great place to start. Everyone else will be travelling solo too and you can bet that there will be people with the same fears and anxieties in your group, as well as some seasoned solo adventurers who will want to put you at ease. I've only been on one solo holiday before and was surprised at how much I enjoyed it. I am booked with Just You for a trip in May, which I doubt will go ahead now, but
will definitely rebook once all this madness has passed. Take care of yourself, stay safe and get planning!
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Post: #4
Hi I too was in the same situation.I did go away on my own and found it a lonely experience especially meals alone,then I discovered just you.i went to Italy last year and was lucky enough to travel to India this February before the restrictions came in.Both were great trips with a varied group of people.in India the age range was mid 20s to 70s, there’s always someone to chat to and enjoy a meal with ,plus alone time when needed.cant wait to book my next trip!Canada I think!
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Post: #5
Hello Dave

First of all so sorry about your sad loss.  Unfortunately life has to go on for those left behind.  Once the current situation is over, pluck up the courage and go ahead and book something - pick a destination you always wanted to visit.  You will be travelling with like minded people of all ages and life experiences. When you travel with Just You, you are well looked after and are never alone unless you choose to be.  I am so glad I took the plunge in 2019 and since then have been on amazing holidays and made some lovely memories.  I have also made some great friends who I keep in touch with.

Best wishes

Jaya
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Post: #6
Rainbow 
Hi Dave, I am in a similar situation, lost my husband nearly 12 months ago. We had one holiday booked and my daughter came with me and we did have a fantastic time. Unfortunately she has her own family so I cannot expect her to use her holidays with me. My husband said he just wanted me to be happy, so that is what I try to do - and to the outside world I am. I bit the bullet to do solo holidays and have booked to go with Just You in June - although that will probably be cancelled now. Have also booked a short cruise for next year, which hopefully will go ahead. For now I am just trying short, not too long distance holidays, until I get my solo feet! I am sure you will be fine and will meet lots of lovely people, but being solo is still very new for you so take your time - you will know when the time feels right. Big hugs.
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Post: #7
Hi Dave, sorry to hear about your loss. I think you have to decide between touring holidays (getting up early, travelling on a coach all day, but with frequent comfort stops and and visitor attractions, and arriving at the next hotel anytime from mid-afternoon to early evening), or a centred holiday where you you can probably get up later before taking the included or optional coach trips, and getting back in plenty of time for the evening meal. Either type of holiday has its merits, but you won't be alone if you don't want to be, from breakfast until the evening. After dinner you might like to relax with some of your group in the bar, or go back to your room and sort yourself out for the next day - the choice is yours! Whatever you do you won't regret it!
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Post: #8
Hi Magicdave2020

So sorry for your loss. I am in a similar position at the moment except I lost my husband 9mths ago. Needed to find strength to go on .So i visited the Destinations Show just to get out of the house and saw the Just You Stand so deceided speak to someone. I think knowing that other people are in the same or similar position as yourself makes the initial plunge a little easier. I am booked to go to Jordan in September .You will find the strength and courage when you are ready . Take your time but like the rest of us - one step at a time . Take care stay safe.
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Post: #9
So sorry for your loss Dave. I lost my husband and was nervous about travelling alone as I'd relied upon him to get me through airports etc. But I can honestly say there's someone there every step of the way IF you need it, equally if you want time alone then you can have that too. My first trip was flavours of Tuscany as it included a couple of (simple) cookery lessons when I thought would be great ice breakers, I wasn't wrong I'd recommend that, or something similar to any newbie.

My trip this month has, of course, been cancelled and I have my fingers crossed that my September trip to S. Africa won't go the same way., But, if that happens, I'll rebook both for next year.

Everyone is nervous, to some extent, on their first trip but once you've taken the plunge you'll be back for more.

Your late husband would be proud of you for doing this.

Best wishes, Rose
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Post: #10
Hi Magicdave
Firstly can I say I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You will find that the JY Family are tremendous and if you fail to make friends on any of the trips I would say you didn't go with JY. I formed a contact group with people I went on on a trip with 2 years ago and they have certainly helped with the present uncertain times. I went on a trip last year and one of the group had lost his wife only a matter of weeks before and at the end of the holiday he thank us all for listening and understanding and also for the many laughs we had especially in the bar after dinner. There were moments when he needed quiet time and that is the beauty of this group you can join in as much as you like but you certainly will not be eating alone.
So get this virus thing out of the way then decide where you would like to go and book it you will certainly not be disappointed with the level of care and attention to detail by JY and the excellent tour manangers and the superb group of fellow travellers. Happy hunting and enjoy.
Stay safe
Paul
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